My Journey to Finding Feminine

I am not a tall, thin, beautiful blonde and for much of my life time I thought that is what it meant to be feminine. I dont really like having my nails done, i love being dolled up but only once or twice a year. My beauty is functionality, practicality and efficiency. If my beautifully primed bangs get in my eyes, i dont care where I am going the headband is coming on, the bra is usually coming off and the socks and shoes.... who needs them anyway.

I am proud of who I am, but always longed to be more... feminine.

As I mature, I am learning to be feminine stretches far beyond the classic, materialistic fads, make up, hair, body type etc.

I am beautiful! My curves, my thick dark hair, my big hazel eyes, my authenticity, my independence, my brains, my fiercity.

But is being feminine just beauty or has that been reprogrammed for us to believe such a thing?

Being Masculine is not just about being handsome or trying to dominate, so why should being feminine be so simplistic?!

So here is a list I have started (and you know what, I am sexy and I am feminine!):

Being Feminine does not have to be female

Being feminine is NOT being subordinate

Being feminine is NOT being a maid or house keeper

Being feminine is NOT being a mom

Being feminine is NOT walking or gliding gracefully

Being feminine is NOT talking softly

Being feminine is NOT to impress men

Being feminine is NOT delicate

Being feminine is NOT cheap

Being feminine is NOT weak

Being feminine is NOT uneducated

Being feminine is NOT dismissive

Being feminine is NOT passive

Being feminine is NOT hysterical

Being feminine is divine

Being feminine is power

Being feminine is sexy

Being feminine is self love

Being feminine is leadership

Being feminine is having a voice

Being feminine is emotional

Being feminine is authentic

Being feminine is love

Being feminine is community

Being feminine is to share

Being feminine is foundation

Being feminine is creation

Being feminine is raw

Being feminine is juicy

Being feminine is intuitive

Being feminine is growth

Being feminine is having a voice

Being feminine is strength

Being feminine is acceptance

Being feminine is thought

Being feminine is perserverence

Being feminine is persistence

Being feminine is patience

Being feminine is smart

Being feminine is wild

Being feminine is empowering

Being feminine is rooted

Being feminine is connected

Being feminine comes in all shapes

Being feminine comes in all sizes

Being feminine doesn’t need grooming

Being feminine can be as prim and proper as they chose

Being feminine is opinionated

Being feminine is independent

Being feminine is dependent

Being feminine is a mother

Being feminine is gay

Being feminine is transsexual

Being feminine is self care

Being feminine is boundaries

Being feminine is knowledge

Being feminine is ancestral

Being feminine is a gift

Being feminine is compromise

Being feminine is solution

Being feminine is Passion

Being feminine is ever changing

Feminine out of balance can look like:

Gossip

Jealousy

Spite

These are symptoms of having internalized what being feminine is not. All emotions are gifts and these “uglier” emotions are screaming for change and are showing us the exact culprit that of all that turmoil and our deflating power.